How to Stop Bitterness on its Tracks

Appreciate your relationship by cultivating optimism and enjoying priceless moments. By this we mean, welcome pleasurable experiences with your partner.
  
1. Celebrate Life

"You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment." ~Henry David Thoreau

• Release those endorphins, relieve stress, help reduce conflict and add zest to your life by provoking yourself to laugh.  
• Compliment your partner on specific things that are important to them. 

  2. Get Creative

"Stressed spelled backwards is desserts." ~Barbara Enberg

• Replace bad habits creatively. Throw away useless habits that stand in the way of your growth and find replacements for them.
• Turn on the light bulb. Opportunities unfold when your creativity is at use and then you can rebuild or restore many things.
• Try something new. Take on a new hobby or sport that will enrich you and your relationship with your partner.

3. Improve your Quality of Life

"Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When you do a thing, do it with your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp it with your own personality. Be active, be energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful, and you will accomplish your objective. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

• Daily list 5-10 things that you are grateful for. This will shift your focus from negative to positive.
• Research shows that frequent exercise reduces depression, anger, cynical distrust, and stress. 
• Regular small increments of meditation has been found to reduce negative moods, depression, fatigue, confusion, and heart rate. 

3. Act on Intention and Benefit All

  

"No hagas cosas buenas que parezcan malas..." ~Mexican Saying. Translation: "Don't do good things that look bad."

• To act on intention does not mean it will benefit all. You may do a good deed for a woman your wife does not trust and dismiss to tell your wife to save her grief. This is not a good deed in the end. A good benefit should benefit all (your marriage). 
• Be mindful and aware before you act. It take focus and intent to avoid saying something you'll later regret.

4. Get Organized

 "Every evening we should look back at the day and think about it. What problems did I solve? What harmful habits did I change? What wrongdoing did I avoid? What good habits did I practice?" ~Lucius Seneca

• Put order to what is disorganized in your life. Whether it be organizing your home, your job duties, your goals, and putting your relationship back on track. Some say that you can walk into someone's room and know how their mind is. 
• Focus on what is in your control. List the areas of your life where you feel disorganized and troubled, and find a way to organize each one. 

Find patience within yourself whenever there is change. There is no perfect couple, and therefore, there is no perfect marriage. Discover satisfaction and happiness in what life has to offer and make the best return.