4 Holiday Remedies for Couples

Reflect on only four goals during this holiday season. Some families have already begun the celebrations, and other families are still in preparation. Whatever the case, consider the following elixirs for glorious holidays.

Relax. Holidays can add stress to any couple, no matter their situation. It's important to weigh out what is most important at the time of endless to-do lists and pressing deadlines. Make time for you and your partner that will nurture your time together not empty your wallet.

• A stroll at sunset
• Lunch together
• A glass of wine after the kids are asleep (put them to bed early)
• A film of shared interest
• Play a board game
• Enjoy a shared hobby (painting, exercising, biking, dancing, and so on)
• Visit to a local coffee shop
• Give each other a full body massage

Allow this to be a refreshing process for your mind and body, just as you rest your body by sleeping, rest your mind by relaxing.

Breathe. Breathing exercises can calm the nerves and slow down your brain waves. This will allow a calmer you to approach conflict or stressful situations. Look at the brain and see its functions when disciplining it with meditation. Find activities to support breathing techniques for 10 minutes a day. Two examples are:

• Yoga
• Meditation

If you are new to meditation, discover 100 benefits to meditating. Many books have easy instruction on how to meditate, such The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky. 
 

Give. Deem yourself fortunate to have what you have at this very moment, because someone in this world has less than you. The only abundant giving I recommend during the holiday season is gratitude. Give your spouse or partner gratitude on specific things as often as you can. Make a note for yourself on the amount of times a day, or week, you would like to give your partner appreciation. Above all, give your partner an opportunity this year. When they have wronged, disappointed you, upset you, ignored you, and even forgotten to call you when they have been late, give them an opportunity, the benefit of the doubt. Find them worthy enough of your respect and give them an opportunity to love you.

• Appreciate (x amount of times a day or week)
• Opportunities (to try again and love you)

Touch. Caress and embrace your partner. Touch is highly recommended and therefore could not be merely suggested under Relax or Give. This is exceptionally therapeutic for anyone at any age. Touch is a reinforcement of your undying love for one another. Use and enjoy your most gratifying tool. 

When I looked up caress in the thesaurus as a verb, these are some of the terms I found:

• bear hug
• cuddle
• embrace
• feel
• hug 
• kiss
• make love
• massage
• nestle
• play around

 We wish you a delightful holiday season with many blessings to come! We hope you are in good company and surrounded by those that love and support you. And we encourage to read these remedies with deep contemplation to implement into your relationship and enjoy what the season has to offer you.