Morning Glow-ry!

Our favorite time together is when we have breakfast as we share each other's company, goals, dreams, and our passion, love and cooking. It is great to spend time with the one you love. The best moment is when we get to hold each other at night and appreciate one thing or many things that day. It's very rewarding to hear an appreciation from your partner. It reinforces the greatness of efforts.

We teach couples to reinforce those small efforts when a habit is being changed. A habit change to cleaning in the kitchen has increased because of encouragement in our relationship.

The small attempts needs positive reinforcement in order to want to be done again.

When our son receives an outcome that he likes for whatever action he did, he will most likely do it again. If he doesn't like the outcome, he will less likely do it again.

Same goes for us and probably others too. For example:

• If a child is continuously hurt or scared by the experience of getting his haircutt, that will condition him either to create an aversion or avoid getting haircutts in the future.
• In contrast, if the parent is reassuring and supportive through the process and a child gets a lollipop at the end of the haircutt, this outcome will condition a desirable experience for the child.

The key element is pairing:

• If a woman resorts to insulting her partner when he refuses to talk about feelings it will condition him to avoid the situation or react defensively. If you pair talking about sensitive issues and hurt feelings with nagging and disrespect then the situation becomes undesirable.
• If you pair talking about a senstive topic with kind words, respect, and warmth then the situation becomes desirable, and even sought after.

Learn more on BF Skinner's theory.