Modern Romance

Modern techonology with modern love is an innovative and a further way to say "I love you." Even though our new method of communication is fresh, substituting the degree of affection we share with each other is irrecplaceable and incomparable. When you add positives to the relationship instead of exchanging positives, then that becomes a significant benefit for your relationship.

In our personal relationship, we knew we wanted more attention from each other; as a result we used the internet for resources to pick and chose our favorites. We wanted to find a collection of creative ideas that we would be endless for us to choose from. Because we discovered we feel cared for in different ways. Alfred feels loved when the house is picked up or the kitchen is clean and Lucinda feels loved when read poetry to, for example.

• Find your "love button." What specifically ignites your love fire? Do you like to hear sweet nothings, get a foot rub, or receive a love letter with a pressed flower inside? Auditory, Kinesthetic, or Visual? Simplify your search by listing individualy 10 things that help you feel loved. Narrow down your "love button." Use the Date Night Deck for fun times with your "love button."
• Use social network sites to flirt. Flirt with each other on Facebook. A great book just released in March 2010 is Facebook and Your Marriage, by Jason & Kelli Krafsky.
• Read inspiring quotes to each other. Use the internet for a google search on love quotes that inspire both of you. Personalize your search to include humor, romance, history, and even quotes by inspiring people like Shakespeare, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, and many more. We have collected some in our own webste, Loveland Relationship.
• Search for marriage/relationship blogs. To keep up to date with relationship articles for your relationship you can sign up to RSS feeds to articles that you like and become a fan through facebook to many wonderful organizations that provide links to fantastic articles. Join Loveland Relationship's Facebook fanpage to receive links or quotes related to relationships.
• Purchase a book of ideas. Our personal favorite is 10,000 ways to say I love you, off of Amazon. A great way to never run out of ideas.
• Create an email only the two of you share. It is a great way to reconnect and surprise your partner with a love letter through email.
• Create a website about the two of you. It is common for engaged couples to develop a website centered around their wedding, and many provide hosting for free for only a certain period of time. It's a wonderful way to share with family, friends, and others the joy of your relationship even after the wedding. Remember, the happily ever after comes after the wedding day and it is renewed everyday while working hard at your marriage or relationship.
• Search for marriage/relationship education classes or retreats in your community. California Healthy Marriage Coalition, SmartMarriages, OCMarriage, Loveland Relationship, are to name a few sites where to begin a search that will transform your relationship. Learn skills that will enrich your relationship and strengthen even in weak times.

Using your resources for a higher intention, is an investment in your relationship worth giving. It's a journey worth traveling, and a song worth singing.